Sometimes Running A Community Sucks Ass

Posted on April 12, 2008 
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Members overrunning the siteOne of the most difficult things about running a community website is dealing with the vast diversity of personalties. With members at GrownUpGeek.com ranging in age from 15 to 80, a wide range of cultures, religions, backgrounds, social-status, upbringing and differences in anything else you can think of, trying keep everyone happy is a bit like being a politician or pissing into the wind. No matter how hard you try, you still get pissed-on and pissed-off.

For about the last two months many long-time (and the most valued) members and even moderators have been at each other’s throats, bickering, fighting, and frankly acting like children. One moderator quit due to personality conflicts, another had been continually threatening to quit if the site was not run to his liking, and now someone (actually, probably two members) are going around making fake profiles on Myspace of other members with some pretty nasty things in them - then sending these fake profiles to other members at the website.. Pretty childish shit that reminds me of that Twilight Zone Episode where everyone in the neighborhood thinks the country is under nuclear attack and soon everyone degenerates to acting like rabid animals to try and fight their way into the only fallout shelter on the block - each person displaying what they’re really made of.

How I’ve dealt with the problems:

For the last week or so, for the most part, things have been civil at the site, but the constant attack against some members continues off-site, via Myspace and email. I’ve pledged to stay out that since my powers don’t extend beyond our website. It’s really surprising what “mature adults” will stoop too. All part of the fun of running a popular community website.

No moral, no message, no prophetic tract: Just a simple statement of fact. For civilization to survive, the human race has to remain civilized. Tonight’s very small exercise in logic, from the Twilight Zone.

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3 Responses to “Sometimes Running A Community Sucks Ass”

  1. MyAvatars 0.2 c5 (1 comments) on April 13th, 2008 4:11 pm

    Wow. Sorry for your plight, Randy. But I say you’ve made the right decision. Funny what most people will go through when power is in their hands. And to think it’s only moderation power. What more if it’s political? Sad, so sad. Human nature.

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  2. MyAvatars 0.2 Mike Dammann (1 comments) on April 19th, 2008 1:18 pm

    I also have run several communities and you always have to be ready to make decisions. Even when members of your core team don’t get along with each others, you cannot ignore problems, you always need to be ready to deal with them.
    Unless of course you spend money to pay the moderator team and pass the responsibility on to them.

    ~ Mike

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  3. MyAvatars 0.2 BillinDetroit (2 comments) on May 7th, 2008 7:46 pm

    People are funny that way. Everywhere you go. Sorry you got caught up in this. I got caught up in it IRL a couple weeks ago — however, I was not in the drivers seat. It’s tougher to steer matters straight when you aren’t allowed to hold the steering wheel … but not impossible. Things seem to have settled down on my end and I’m glad that they seem to be doing the same on yours.

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